Developing Unbreakable Boundaries
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Doing inner child healing work was the #1 way I finally got myself out of a toxic relationship and truly began healing my CPTSD. My course launches next week for Cricket Fixes members.
Boundaries. We hear about them all the time. Set them. Keep them. Reinforce them. But if you’re anything like me, recovering from CPTSD, healing your inner child, and navigating this wild, beautiful ride of self-discovery, boundaries didn’t come naturally. They weren’t modeled. They weren’t safe. And enforcing them? That felt damn near impossible.
But here’s the truth: boundaries are the ultimate act of self-love. And my journey—through deep healing, inner child work, and the conscious use of psychedelics—has gifted me something I never thought possible: unbreakable boundaries.
The CPTSD Boundary Struggle
When you grow up in a chaotic or toxic environment, boundaries become blurry. Saying no often meant punishment. Asking for space felt like rejection. Over time, our nervous systems become wired for hypervigilance, people-pleasing, and self-abandonment. Sound familiar?
Healing from CPTSD means rewriting that script—teaching ourselves that boundaries aren’t selfish. They are survival. They are safety. They are sovereignty.
Inner Child Healing: Reparenting the Part That Never Had Boundaries
So many of us carry the wounds of a child who was never allowed to say, "I don’t like that." Or "I need space." Or simply, "No."
Reparenting my inner child was the foundation of learning how to set—and enforce—healthy boundaries. Through gentle self-compassion, journaling, and deep reflection, I started asking: What did younger me need that she never got? The answer? Safety. Autonomy. Permission to exist without constantly caretaking everyone else’s emotions.
When I started listening to her, honoring her, and prioritizing her needs, everything shifted. Suddenly, "no" became a full fucking sentence. "That doesn’t work for me" became second nature. And guilt? That evaporated, because I knew my inner child deserved the protection she never had.
How Psychedelics Solidified My Unbreakable Boundaries
Let’s talk about the game-changer: psychedelics.
The responsible, intentional use of psychedelics cracked me open in a way nothing else ever had. In sacred journeys, I saw just how much of my energy was bleeding out to people, patterns, and dynamics that weren’t serving me. I felt—on a soul level—what it meant to be whole, sovereign, and deeply aligned.
Mushrooms, in particular, illuminated the places where I was betraying myself. They showed me the power of saying no without explaining. The beauty of taking up space without apology. The necessity of walking away when my energy wasn’t being honored.
Psychedelics didn’t just teach me about boundaries. They embodied them. They reprogrammed my nervous system to feel safe in self-protection.
5 Steps to Creating Unbreakable Boundaries (Without the Guilt)
If you’re ready to step into your power and create unshakable boundaries, start here:
Listen to Your Nervous System – If something feels off, honor it. Your body is your greatest compass.
Reparent the Inner Child – Speak to yourself the way you wish an unconditionally loving parent had.
Practice Saying No—Without Explanation – "No" is a complete sentence. You don’t owe an excuse.
Use Psychedelics (Intentionally) to Gain Clarity – If it aligns with your journey, safe, conscious psychedelic use can offer profound insights on where your boundaries need reinforcement.
Release the Guilt – Your boundaries are not up for negotiation. If someone resents them, that’s their fucking work to do—not yours.
The Ripple Effect of Strong Boundaries
Since embracing unbreakable boundaries, my life has radically transformed. My relationships are healthier. My nervous system is calmer. My self-respect is unshakable. And best of all? My inner child is no longer screaming for protection—because she finally has it.
If you’re on this path of deep healing, know this: boundaries are your birthright. You are not responsible for managing other people’s discomfort when you enforce them. You are only responsible for protecting your peace.
Let’s normalize firm boundaries. Let’s make self-respect our baseline. And let’s continue this healing journey together.
Take the Next Step
If you’re struggling with creating and maintaining healthy boundaries, if you’re stuck in a toxic relationship (romantic, friend, or family), or a job that has taken over your life and sanity, a great place to start is with doing inner child healing work. You’ll be amazed at how many shifts in your life unfold when your inner littles are getting their needs met. It’s been LIFE-CHANGING for me.
One of the key benefits of being a Cricket Fixes member is access to the self-paced course Transformative Healing: Meeting and Reparenting Your Inner Child. The first chapter will be out next week so now is a fabulous time to join.
